My Valentine's Day 2014

I woke up to a lovely morning with a few presents from my husband. He had a big boquete of flowers, some hair products, and a beautiful card. This was supposed to be the beginning of our weekend. He had to work, so I decided to take one client that morning before getting ready for the weekend. So, I dropped him off at work and went on my way to see my client. BUT! I did not make it to work that day, and this would be the very first time I didn't make it into work. 

On my way to work, a drive I've done for 3 1/2 years without a problem, I got into the worst accident of my life. I was in the right hand lane when this lady flies out of an apartment complex, without even a though, pulling into an intersection. I couldn't see her as there is foliage, trees, and a glass cased bus stop before the complex. She ran a stop sign and I didn't see her coming. She flew in front of me so fast I t-boned her front end. It was like I was floating around in the car and getting punched in the face by an airbag all at the same time. It was exactly like the comercial about texting and driving, but I wasn't the one that was on my phone. After I hit her, I then ran off the street into a flooded ditch and then into a tree. I hit the tree and the tree didn't budge. Also, there was no more airbag for this punch, so it was all steering wheel to the face. As the car FINALLY stopped moving, I knew I had to focus on breathing. I could barely breathe, my stomach hurt more than it ever has, and I was bleeding profusely from my nose. I wasn't concerned at all about my nose, because in wrestling I've broken it at least 3x that I can think of. I knew I just had to keep my face down, so the blood didn't drain into my stomach, as I already had pains there and vomiting would be the last thing I needed (If you swallow blood it may upset your stomach and make you vomit). 

A guy had stopped immediately to help me and was very concerned. He was trying to talk to me, and I could barely speak. I just kept telling him to get Pooh. My phone case currently is Winnie the Pooh. Well, he found Pooh, and there was no more phone in it. I hit so hard my phone flew out of the case. So, we found my phone, and I dialed my husband. I couldn't speak, so I gave it to him and said husband. He moved me from the front seat to the back as he was waiting for my husband to answer. Now, I know he shouldn't have, but I couldn't argue, and I didn't want to risk anymore injuries. He told my husband what happened and where we were at. Next this guy told my husband that he moved me. All of a sudden, and all I hear is $#%R&*%&%^#$%#^&&$#%$#":%{#$%^:@#{:^........ All I could do was roll my eyes. In the mean time, the lady who caused all of this, because she was neglecting to pay attention and on her phone, never came to check on me. She was absolutely fine, not a scratch, and car was fine. I'm bleeding, in pain, and my car is completely totalled. 

The ambulance gets there pretty fast, but I wasn't surprised and was expecting them to be soon. I knew I needed to go to the hospital, so I said lets go. I told them I was awake the whole time (being a pro wrestler we get kicked in the head a LOT, and I've had probably 7 bad concussions and a ton of minor, so I didn't get knocked out, but wished I had), what happened, and my symptoms. I hear my husband screaming and eventually he finds me. He tells me he'll meet me there, then I tell them I don't have my phone. Everyone said they would look for it and I'd get it as soon as possible. 

They get me to the hospital and I am having SEVERE pain in my abdomen. My husband follows behind minutes later. I ask him if he got my phone, and he said they couldn't find it. I know what happened to it. The man that helped me had to have been so scared of my husband, that he just gave his statement and left. When my husband is angry, he's ANGRY! The nursing team comes and takes me away for scans, x-rays, and for the doc to examine me. They FINALLY give me pain meds, followed by the results. They said I had a tear in my large intestine and internal bleeding. They said they'd have to make small incisions and clean up my insides. I agree and say let's get this done. 

I woke up in SO much pain, but I remember also being really high, thanks morphine. The doctor came in and said things went well and I should be out in a few days. During these few days I remember people coming in and out, and the walls coming at me, thanks morphine. I do remember my friend Kirsten coming to visit me late, must have been when she got off of work, and I remember not feeling so great. I told her what was going on, because she is also a nurse, and she was concerned. I didn't put too much thought into it, just thought it was pain from the surgery. The next morning the doctors were trying to discharge me. One of the doctors thought I was there for pain drugs, but Dr. Tapper was VERY concerned about the pain in my abdomen. He says to me, "I don't feel comfortable discharging you when you're in this much pain." I agreed! He then said, "I'm going to have to cut you wide open to see what's going on." My response was, "Well, I'm in pain and you have to do what you have to do." So, I go in soon after for my second surgery.

I wake up in EVEN MORE PAIN. I didn't understand why I still was in so much pain, but I was very comfortable, because I had so many loved ones with me. I had friends, framily, and my husband by my side. I may have been really high and out of it, but I remember some parts, and the walls still coming at me, thanks morphine. IF I HAD TEXTED, VOXED, OR CALLED you when I was on drugs, I AM SORRY!!!!!! My husband shouldn't have given me the phone right away that he had bought for me. As my stay continued, they made me get up and walk, which was EXTREMELY painful and uncomfortable. At this point, I still haven't even looked at my stomach. Later, the doc comes in and decided to take staples out of my stomach. When the doc and the nurse went to grab a few things they needed, I snapped a shot of my stomach and FREAKED! I had 2 giant holes in my stomach. I had no clue! I was so freaked out by this I couldn't even talk, but before the doctor left I asked him what happened. He said I a blood clot explode inside me and I went septic. This means, IF they would have discharged me, I would have had up to 48 hours to live. If the infection didn't kill me, the blood clot would have traveled to my heart or brain and would have killed me. So, Dr. Tapper literally saved my life by not discharging me. 

So, It had been about 2 weeks, still in the hospital, and bills already up to a quarter of a million dollars. The stay continues, the bills continue to rack up, and more and more walking. I had a stay of just over 3 weeks in the hospital alone. They FINALLY discharged me. I was allowed to be at home on bed rest and only walk a little here and a little there. I was on house arrest, thats house arrest to me, for 3 weeks.

Being home wasn't fun either. I had what they call a wound vac in my stomach to keep it clean and dry. I had to have a nurse change this 3x a week, and was one of the most painful thing I've ever been through. I even had one nurse come to my house and rip it right out of me. They eventually took me off the vac, and put me on wet to dry. It's a bunch of gauze to keep it clean. I did this myself.  

While being on bed rest, I spoke to my lawyer. He tells me that she's like 21, no assets, minimum insurance, no nothing, and if we went after her for money, it'd be like getting money from a rock. LOVELY NEWS..... (sarcasm).....  I get all these injuries and am down for 2 months and she gets a ticket for reckless driving. So, this means, after all is said and done, I will have to pay out of pocket whatever my insurance doesn't cover. This is just fantastic news, especially after what I've gone through. 

Fast forward to today, I still have an open wound, but one is healed. I hope the other will be healed in about another 3 weeks. Thankfully, I have sweert FRAMILY that live here in Florida. Yes, framily. I don't live near any of my family, so they're not here to help. If it wasn't for my husband, framily, and friends, I'd be all alone. My framily Ryan, Angel, and Krissy set up a fundraiser for me, to help with the bills when they all come in or a new car. They were able to raise $5,000.00 for me and a truely selfless thing they did for me, and I'll always be grateful. Lexie is my wrestling mum/my sister/ my best friend and she was there for me a ton. She is always there for me, and i'm forever grateful for her kindness towards me, not just for this, but in life. I'm grateful for my husband who stayed with me every single night, and who went above and beyond for me the whole time. I love him more than he knows. I hope I can be there for everyone as much as they were there for me. Love you all. 

My life was taken from me for 2 months, I wasn't able to see my little from Big Brother Big Sister, I can't compete for at least a year, I can't wrestle for at least a year, I will have a huge scar for the rest of my life, and the most upsetting thing to me, is that I can not even try for a baby for a year, and that is something we were hoping to try for. 

Today I ask all of you to please think about your loved ones, friends, family, and pets before you text, talk on your phone, tweet, facebook, etc while driving. If this can happen to me, this can happen to any one of them and even yourself. I wasn't the one on my phone, but she was. I'm the one that got hurt, she didn't. I know phones are the lifeline these days, but please keep my story in the back of your head, stay safe and keep your family safe.

Big Brother Big Sister

People keep asking me why I decided to become a Big in the Big Brother Big Sister program. I get asked; "Why?" Told,  "It'll look great on your resume!" Someone told me, "I thought about it and never went through with it." Some comments from people about me being in the program are either REALLY rude and they don't know it, or VERY supportive, which makes me happy. 

Well, when I was 8 years old I got put in the program. My grandma couldn't really do anything with me, so she put me in the program. My grandmother is in a wheelchair and suffers from MS. I was a very shy child and didn't get out much, so she thought this would be great for me. So, I met my Big and I was very shy. I rarely spoke to her, but she kept trying and trying. Eventually, she got me to make decent conversation, but I was still very shy. My Big put me in many situations where I'd have to introduce myself, use my manners, educated me on the things she found interesting, etc. She stayed with me from age 8-16. We went our separate ways as we were both growing up, but it wasn't a falling out,  just a change in each other's lives. 

Fast forward 15 years later, I decided I wanted to pay it forward. I received a little names Reniyah who's 8 years old! That is the same age I was when I started. I want to help my little Reniyah to grown up to be a wonderful lady. I absolutely love my little and I believe she loves me. I couldn't have asked for a better little lady to spend my time with. She keeps me on my toes, and teaches me as much as I teach her. I've only had her for about 8 months, but it feels like I've known her, her whole life. 

I just hope she keeps me longer than a year, which is the contract you sign.  I would like to give her at least the years Lori gave me, or longer. 

I hope some of you join BBBS, because there are a ton of little boys and girls who need role models in their lives. 

B~

Retirement

First off I'd like to just say retiring isn't easy by any means. I'm sure a lot of wrestlers struggle through this, but when it's time you'll know, and I know. 

Pro wrestling is my first love and my first committed relationship. We were together for 13 years strong.   Even though my love has hurt me over and over again, especially when I was first breaking in, I still kept going back. LOL! I might be a little stubborn and hard headed, but I love this business with all my heart. I've taken a hiatus every now and then when I've gotten hurt, but never for long, but after; broken foot x3 (same freakin foot), tear in knee, broken coccyx, broken back, nose broken 3x, busted open x?, broken fingers, a broken arm, crack in skull, elbow chips, many black and blue spots, especially eyes, cuts, and many major and minor concussions, it's time. This is the HARDEST breakup i've ever had. Unless you've ever been a pro for x plus years, then you have no clue how I feel right now. 

I am grateful for everyone I've met, the family that I've grown from wrestling, wrestlers, trainers, fans, promoters, ring crew, photographers, anyone I've ever met in wrestling. Thank you to you all for every moment we've spent together, the impact you've had on my life, and the relationships we've grown. 

Thank you Horace for taking me under your wing, even though you didn't want me to wrestle, but you knew I would whether you liked it or not. Thanks for the hours you put in on the phone, ring, after practice, EVERY QUESTION I HAD AFTER WATCHING THE PRODUCT. LOL! EVERYTHING! Thank you Eddie Sharkey for all of you knowledge in the business, even out of ring experience. Thank you Lexie Fyfe for being my first woman trainer and helping transform me into the workers I was, for being one of my very best friends, for being my sister, and for being my maid of honor. Gran Apache por ser una inspiración increíble para mi carrera de lucha libre. Eres un entrenador asombroso, y agradezco todo el tiempo que puso en mí. Un año de entrenamiento desde era un tiempo de vida del conocimiento. GRACIAS, Te amo, muchos besos.

Thank you to all the women who have trusted me with their lives over the last 13 years. Thank you for putting on some of the best women's matches out there with me. To the ladies who have helped me grow over the years, thank you. To the ones I've gotten the chance to help, now it's your turn to do what I did for you, to those who DESERVE it. Make the new generation earn it, but now it's your turn to share the business with them. I am grateful and blessed to have met you all, worked with you all, and happy to call all of you that have stuck by my side through the years, my sisters, LOVE YOU ALL! To Lacey and Vicky (Jetta) we're officially retired, broads. No more MNHWC or IHWC. Love you Twats!

Now to the new Shine Champion Ivelisse. I want to thank you for my last match. You are a great competitor and deserve to be the new Shine Champ. You've worked so hard and I have seen you grow significantly over the years. Many fans probably don't know this, but Shine 16 was not the first time I've wrestled Ivie. I've wrestled her once YEARS ago and have known her before Valkyrie, and through our Valkyrie times we've grown closer. She is a spit fire, fast, smart, and is going to be one hell of a champion. Shine is lucky to have this lady as the second champ ever! Get it girl, and make me proud!

Lastly, I would like to thank pro wrestling and Lexie Fyfe for bringing me and my husband together. If it wasnt for those two, I would not have met the love of my life Christopher Gray. I'm a very happily married woman thank to this man. We have a family of each other and two wonderful pugs (Collin and Eddie), and I wouldn't trade my life for any other. Thank you my love for being so supportive of my career and being there for my last match. I love you from the bottom of my heart.

Now that I'm retired from one thing, doesn't mean I'm retired from life. I'm working on a lot of things, so you'll hear a lot from me soon. But it's time to work hard and put new energy into new things.

Sincerely, thank you, love (whatever you know me as) Rain/Bonnie/Payton or some call me Bon Bon lol!

Uncensored Battle Royal

Hi All,

I know you all know that WSU's Uncensored Battle Royal is here this weekend. If you haven't heard, the stipulation of this match is that IF I win I get a title shot, and if I lose, I quit wrestling.

I have had a LONG run at WSU for about 3 years now, maybe even longer. I've had some of the longest matches at WSU, especially with Mercedez Martinez. I have had years of going for the belt, but I have never won it. I do regret never being able to win the title.

I've got a lot going in life, lots of changes, other ventures to be announced in the future, and even other wrestling ventures coming soon. I've had a great run in WSU, some really great matches, lots of new female faces to wrestle. I've also got a really big rumble ahead of me, and whatever the outcome is I'm grateful for the run I've had and the people I've gotten a chance to meet.

So, if I win, I get another chance to try and win the title! But if I lose, I thank you all for coming to the shows, because without you fans, we wouldn't be the company we are. If I lose, to all the ladies I've worked, asked for advice, and made it a great time every time I came up that way. If I lose, I thank everyone in the office for booking me, dealing with me (LOL I'm a pain in the ass, straight to business), and using me to my full potential.

Please come out to see me this weekend at WSU (@ wsuwrestling.com) and head to the site for directions. I'll also be bringing pictures and be out for autographs.

Rain

WSU!!!

I've got a few things to get off my chest before this next WSU show. I've got a few things I need to address. I've got a few details that I've got to point out to you all, before I even get to the building. I've got a lot to say, and I'm sure you want to hear it.

First, I've got to remind all of you that Jessica Havok won the SPIRIT title from ME! Who didn't get a rematch? OH! That would be ME! Couple issues I have with Jessica before I get on with my issues with WSU.
Jessica! Just so you know, because maybe you don't. I was first a part of Konnan's army down in AAA Lucha Libre. I brought that up to WSU. I made my own army. OH! You may not remember. I asked you to be a part of it, and you were in MY ARMY. OH! Yeah, you probably remember that YOU turned your back on me by stabbing me in the back. Now, you have your own army? HM! Interesting? Maybe I should attach a picture of my outfits, so you can visualize while I continue. Now here's my issues. You've not given me a title shot rematch after you screwed me over for my title, but now you've copied me and started your own army, but now you dress like me. Stalkerish much? I think I may need to get a restraining order, just in case you break into my house and I find you rolling around smelling my shoes next. Going to quote Ron Simmons, "DAMN!!!!''
WSU! Now as the company and the owner, wouldn't you think that he would make this match happen? HM! Doesn't seem like WSU is being run with any sort of rules. Where is our general manager to enforce some of these rules. I don't know, clearly not the owner, clearly not any of the office, because if we had a real general manager, wouldn't they make sure this match happened MONTHS ago? You know, after I had won then lost it? Right? W worst S sense U usual? I dunno, lol, I tried. Get my point?


Second, I've still not had a chance at Mercedez. Out of all the WSU wrestlers, I deserve a title shot. I'm the one that has put the time, the work, and my life on the line to get to her the first time, and to hang with her through our matches. Not only do I deserve another shot, I know people would want to see it.

Third and last, but not least! We've got Lexxus. Actually, not we've got, I've got! I've got her right where I want her. Come next weekend Lexxus will be mine alone and in my ring! She wants to elbow my little sister (Jetta) right in the mouth and bust her face open. She wants to cheat to win to beat the IHWC. She wants to try and attack Serena while she is injured and NOT cleared from a doctor to wrestle, because of a serious concussion she had just received. Then she wants to go online and run her mouth about me. This girl isn't just asking to get her teeth kicked down her throat, but she is looking to DIE!! DIE!! DIE!!! I'm not just going to teach this girl a lesson, I might be ending this girl's career. Seriously! You've not just messed with me, but you've messed with family and friends. I don't tollerate this from anyone, especially a disrespectful, frizzy haired, umpa loompa, over spray tanned midget. I'm going to stomp her face in come March 3rd, and that will be the last you'll have to hear from that whiny little voice of hers. THIS IS PERSONAL!

So, come next weekend, you're going to see a whole new side to me. You're going to see a side with zero tolerance for anyone. My patience has run out with WSU, Havok, Lexxus and anyone who stands in my way to get to the title.

Rain

Time to understand me a little more..

This is a blog to explain why I like to help people get physical, eat right, and to help them stay healthy. I have people that make excuses not to workout, eat right, or be a healthier person. I get, "Oh, I can't my back, ankles, knees, etc." Well, people have problems, but if you get moving and not cripple yourself, then you can live a happy active life.

You may think, "How can she say that? She doesn't know! She's a healthy active wrestler. Well, yes, healthy; because I choose to be, active because I won't let myself be anything but, wrestler, because it's in special people to put their bodies on the line for all of your entertainment, and I'm able to.

Let's start from the beginning. I was born Bonnie Rain Maxson. Most of you know me as Rain, but only my mom and dad call me Bonnie. I was born September 10th..... (We'll leave my age out of this) in St. Paul, MN. When I was a baby I'd fuss and fuss. At the age of 2 they finally diagnosed me with Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis. Since the age of 2 I've been on meds, in the Children's Hospital, and in the surgery center. I knew going weekly to the Children's Hospital that I was NOT the worst off. I made friends, had fun, but was also scared every time I went there. I was poke, stabbed, had blood draws, draining/scoping on my knees a LOT. I knew I had problems, I knew I was in pain, I knew I couldn't do some of the things other kids did, because my mom and doctors told me.

Well, I remember at the age of 8-9 years old, I had a surgical knee scope done, when I woke they told me I'd be in a wheel chair for the time of healing. The next few times we had gone to the doctors, my doctor told my mom I was going to be in a wheel chair probably for life, because of all the joint issues I was having. So, they kept me in the chair for the whole summer.

One summer day, my mom packed me, my family, and wheel chair up to head to Como Zoo. This was one of my favorite places to go! I was soooooo pumped! We got there, I got in my chair, then pushed around the park all day. As I watched all of these kids run around having a great time, and noticing I couldn't do the same made me REALLY upset. I was embarrassed and wanted to leave my happy place. That day I decided I was NEVER going to be in a wheel chair and I was never going to let this effect my life EVER!!!!! As soon as I got home, I rebelled against the chair and refused to use them.

Today at the age of ...... I am an accomplished world wide female wrestler. I am a personal trainer. I am a yoga instructor. I went to school, finished, and preparing to take my state boards. I am a very active YOUNG lady and I plan on staying that way my whole life, with NO excuses.

I got a new doctor as I became a young lady, and one day when I went to see her, she had saw me on tv. Her words to me were, "So, I saw you on tv. I don't care honestly, as long as you stay active. But don't go and get hurt now. I don't want to hear about any injuries." As a doctor, she was giving me her ok to continue my dream, and that dream I'm still living in today. I will always remember her for that.

As of today, I have been wrestling 12 years. I have stopped taking any medication, except for the occasional IBU Profein. I am happy and healthy and loving life. I don't take a minute of it for granite. I will keep growing, stay active, and live a healthy life style. If I can do it, so can you.

This brings me to the last thing I'd like to discuss. I want to raise money for the Children's Hospital. So, I'll be auctioning items, wrestling items, and coming up with other creative ideas to raise money. I would appreciate all of your help to raise as much money as possible for the children. I know how some of those children feel, and those doctors bills are outrageous. I would just like to do my part to help out as much as possible. So, help me help them.

Thank you very much for time, the time you took to read this, and anytime you help me raise money for The Children's Hospital.

Thanks again, Bonnie Rain

Honesty

Good morning everyone! 

Honesty, this is a subject that I feel men just don't quite get. With honesty, men could fix problems, not create problems, and overall have a better relationship with a woman. 

Take it from me, I've dated liars, and not mean liars, just liars who don't want to get in trouble, so they hide little things from me. I always find out, and it creates more of a problem, just because they've lied. If they were just honest to me in the first place, there would have been absolutely 0 problems in the relationship or close to it. 

In my opinion, guys lie usually about the dumbest thing, the smallest thing and it creates a very large problem, and that problem is now a TRUST ISSUES. This is a huge reason for lost of trust, especially with me. I don't care what the lie is, big or small, it is easiest worked out with honesty. If you're honest up front, how can someone hold that against you? They really can't, cause the answer was he did this, but at least he was honest with me about it. Instead, most men will do something, hide it, do it longer, hide it more, then eventually the lady will find out on her own, and it'll be a HUGE issue. 

In my personal relationships, I've been brutally honest. If the person I'm with asks me something or I've got something going on, I tell them. Most people that know me and have met me, know this. They know if they want an honest opinion on anything, they can ask me, and I'll give it to them. To me, that is just the right way going about pretty much anything. There are stipulations to this rule; like if your pregnant friend has gained more weigh than she is happy with and asks, ''Am I fat?'' then obviously, you say, ''no you're beautiful.'' If you have a friends or family going thru health problems that take a toll on their body and they want to know if they look terrible, the answer is NO, you're beautiful.

BUT! If it comes to lying about taking the trash out, lying about who you had lunch with, about where you were (pub, friends, football game, strip club, etc.), if you've been text messaging with someone, if you've been cheating, walked the dogs, doesn't matter it STILL HURTS! Honesty, is the best way to go, otherwise you end up hurting the people you love and care for. Would you rather destroy someone inside and out with these kinds of lies, or just be honest and fix the problem before it becomes a big one?

If anyone wants to discuss this with me, lets do it. If you have a question, like ''Should I tell my girl friend or wife?'' Then ask away. I'll help you through it, because I'd rather help you help yourselves, then hurting someone else. Does that make sense? It sure does to me. It is better to keep the trust than throw it away, and have to earn it back. It is better to hurt ones feelings with honesty, then to destroy then from within with these lies. Even if your lady puts a smile on her face for you, inside she is broken and untrusting of you. So, don't lose the trust in the first place. If you're honest, most likely things will be worked out, and she'll feel better about the situation no matter what it is. Or take the alternative, lie, hide things, she'll find out, be destroyed, you'll have to work even harder to try and keep her or not piss her off (depending on the lie), and you'll have no trust from her anymore, because you've broken it. So, you will probably lie, but HOW will YOU handle IT?